3rd September, 2010
In those days, parents go out of their way to make enquiries before they accept any girl brought to them by their son for marriage. Girls had so much respect for themselves that men go through hell just to get them. But just like Chinua Achebe said: things have fallen apart. Before a man asks that first question, “will you marry meâ€, the girl had already moved in and become acting wife. They first get pregnant before taking the man to their parents. In my own culture, it is a taboo for a girl to get pregnant outside marriage. I feel ashamed as an Igbo girl when I see parents accept dowry from a man with their daughter heavily pregnant. Our parents have now lost their conscience and trampled on the values handed down to us by our fore-fathers all because of greed.
A man meets a woman in Lagos and instantly gets blinded by her beauty that he starts professing love without trying to know anything about her. Some of these girls act so nice just to get the man to propose before they show their true colour. When I hear people talk about how much of a failure their partners are, I always let them know that those character flaws were there during their dating period, but they were too blind and lost in infatuation.
Back to the issue at hand. It is a pity that the elders in our society who should be guiding us and helping to put us back on track are actually the ones destroying us. This is the problem we have in Nigeria. We have become a nation without elders. The young ones are dancing naked in the market place and the elders are there enjoying the dance of shame while some of them have actually joined in the dance. We have no more elders in our dear nation as everyone is after his pocket. Our politicians have no ideologies as they are nothing but political harlots.
Nobody cares about his name and reputation any longer. Everyone wants to make it the fastest way. The women are also not helping our men. Every woman wants to be identified with a man of means. We all want to get married to multi-millionaires. We donâ€
The men are now being forced to get into many evil things just to get wealthy and be accepted by the society. Chieftaincy titles are now being given to criminals and ritual killers all because they have some dirty money to throw around. Our political offices are now being occupied by thieves and people without values. This is why we have governors flog people on the road and do so many evils through their office. It wasnâ€
Our religious leaders are not helping matters as they choose fame in place of integrity. In the churches and mosques; we see the thieves, drug barons, 419 kingpins, corrupt politicians and ritual killers being given the front seats. They are the elders, deacons and deaconesses in our churches. We see people who have sacrificed years in the service of God and done wonderful things for their faith, but no one recognises them because they donâ€
Our leaders are in their different offices stealing as if there is no tomorrow. The masses are dying daily due to bad roads and hunger while our leaders, the people we elected into political offices are enriching themselves. What has happened to the dreams of our fathers, the late Dr. Nnamdi Azikiwe, Chief Obafemi Awolowo, and Sir Abubakar Tafawa Balewa? I am sure their hearts are bleeding in their graves because what we have now is not the Nigeria they dreamt of and fought for.
Young men, and sadly women, have gone into drugs. They sacrifice their lives and name at the altar of mammon. What could make a woman, a mother to the nation, decide to swallow drugs even with pregnancy? Do we now have our conscience sealed that we donâ€
This is what our society has suddenly become. What do we expect from the younger generation when our mothers and fathers are the ones behind the evil? A fan recently told me a story about his first time in one of the nude clubs in Lagos. He said he couldnâ€
A friend called me some months back after his cousinâ€
I employed a cousin of mine after so much pleading from her mum. Just three months after joining my business, her parents started making so many demands from her. The father sent her texts asking for money for a chieftaincy title while the mother continued asking for money for clothes and other items. This made her steal about half a million from us and borrowed so much from my clients. We got to the office one morning to realise she had fled, and now she is back tin the village doing nothing.
Our traditional rulers were known for uprightness and truth. But what do we now have in our society? We now have fraudsters, drug barons, kidnappers, and robbers as our community leaders. They come out and speak against kidnapping when in the actual fact they are the ones behind the killings and robbery.
Election is by the corner. We now have bloodshed on a daily basis because our politicians are so devilish that some of them have to kill to get into that position. What do we expect when we have people visit the popular Okija Shrine for power? I recently heard of a governor who had to bury a hundred cows alive in the middle of the night just to get to where he is today. People are killed once they declare their interest to run in the forthcoming election. I just pity girls who are so gullible that they need money for lace wigs and blackberry at all costs. This is the time we see so many of them dying after sleeping with these monsters we call leaders.
I recently met a young man who came to me with so many burden in his heart. This man, in his thirties, who has a job and doesnâ€
Guys, you can get that money today and by tomorrow you are no more. One thing I have realised is that no matter how much you make through any wrong means, you will still die an unhappy person. There is nothing like one having a peaceful exit from this life. There is nothing like your children getting honoured in years to come because of your integrity.
I donâ€
The greatest legacy you can leave for generations after you is the legacy of Truth and Integrity. A good name is better than all the riches in this world. Do all your drugs today, get involved in 419, steal from the public purse, kill in your quest for power, and pastors, go on deceiving people in Godâ€
If you are one of such people and right now you have it going well for you, I advise you quit because you may never rest in peace after your death. Your children may start killing themselves for your ill-gotten wealth. Some people pay while they are alive through so many means. You may try to cover up your shame by using money to cover up the stupidity of your children, but such pretences donâ€