Readers Comments And Questions
NIGERIA AT 50.
Dear Amara,
I can feel the intensity of your anger about the state of our country. If we, the youth stay away from politics, then the end has come. We must sanitize the system. Jerry Rawlings option? No way, their blood will pollute the land. These wicked rulers are in their 70s and 80s and will soon die. Let us use every medium available to sensitise the youths and masses. When we refuse to be their foot soldiers, they will then realise that power belongs to us. There is hope; the future is ours.
—Ade
Ama,
You have said the truth, but will they hear and even if they hear and read this, will they change? I suggest you take up another column to be titled “Politicians Grooming”, that way, they may decide to turn a new leaf.
—Anonymous
Amara,
The story of Naija is, aptly put, suffering and smiling (apologies to Fela). It really hurts to see a potentially great nation like Nigeria remain a failed nation at 50. I am a lawyer of 24years practice. Presently, there is no light around my office in Agidingbi and this has been on for two weeks now. But for General Gowon’s Udoji’s award, I would have been a drop-out. Thanks to him and his beautiful wife, Victoria. Nigeria’s future remains ever bright but we should intensify prayers for deliverance from our tyrannical rulers.
—Wale
Hello Amara,
Well done. I have just gone through your article, Nigeria at 50. What a brilliant, highly thought provoking piece of journalism. We will keep on telling them the truth not minding their deaf ears coupled with I don’t care attitude. How I wish this article could be further published in other dailies to achieve wider reading. Keep it up.
—Anonymous
Amara,
I have always followed your write-ups. I must say they are very classy. Tunde Bakare remains my hero ever, ready to die for the truth. I hardly vote too, but it is time we all arise to defend our votes. That is what SNG of Bakare and Co is fighting for. Please Amara, vote and encourage your friends.
—Dr Umeizu.
Dear Amara,
I know many people will not be happy with this article, Nigeria at 50. But I also want you to be assured that we are with you and we are more. Keep it up, NO SHAKING.
Hi,
I read your piece and was held back at your vocal stand point. I am now at peace knowing that many of your likes, unheard and wallowing in silence must be woken up at this clarion call by you. Regardless of your fearless Igbo foundation, Nigeria is blessed with many more Amaras. Bravo!
—Emma Ndukwu.
Amara,
Your article, Nigeria at 50, makes you an agent of change. Keep the spirit high. I love your ideology. —Solo
JOINT ACCOUNT
Amara,
Today’s article is timely and quite instructive. Just cultivated the habit and it is working wonders for the two of us because of its inherent checks and balances. My wife keeps all, but one chequebook and ATM cards. This helped to greatly reduce problems associated with money. May your pen never run dry.
—Wale
Amara,
I totally agree with you. No reason, no matter how good it seems, is good enough for a separate account among married couples. This is because it leads to hatred and suspicion which will in turn leads to quarrels and divorce. Akam adigikwa ya.
—Emma Ezeani.
Dear Amara,
There are many women who were helped up the ladder by their husbands only for them to leave when the going becomes tough. Every woman must prove their suitability for a joint account.
—Anonymous.
Dear Reader,
I agree with you on your comment, but I have also realised that in most cases the problem does not come from the woman. A man helps train a woman in school and helps her rise in life. But the moment the woman gets there, every little mistake she makes is blamed on her career and status. Some men won’t even let the woman have a moment of peace in her chosen career while some want them to sit at home after school. Why send a woman to school when you are not ready to let her practice what she studied? Every woman yearns for love and affection and it takes a real man to touch that special place in the heart of his woman. Once you are able to do this, you become her king for life. But the issue is that a good number of Nigerian men get it wrong when it comes to relationships.
Hi Amara,
I read your article on joint account. Would you please define joint account—a woman earning and keeping her money while spending mine? You can only be right if she is a housewife.
—Anonymous.
Dear Reader,
I have seen men who care less about how much a woman has. To these real men, a woman’s income cannot sustain them. I love it when couples pull their resources together for a better life. But sir, you are the man and should never depend on a woman’s income for sustainance. Women are not too difficult to deal with. You can easily get a woman open up to you and the only way to achieve this is by making her feel loved, not by giving her money and the good things of life, but by touching that part of her heart that is waiting for you. My sister earns quite a lot, but her husband has never bothered about her salary when it comes to the running of the home.
Amara,
Joint account, a very interesting topic. Since I can’t judge a book by its cover, how long do I wait for before opening a joint account with my wife? What about in cases of divorce where just one of the parties, male or female, goes away with all the money.
—Godffery.
Dear Godffery,
Thanks for this question. I am of the school of thought that says people should get married to their friends. The problem with most Nigerian marriages is that people fail to get married to their friends. Start out as friends, no strings attached. Study her as a friend before studying her as a lover. This way, you can have a joint account as soon as you get married. But if you are married to a woman you don’t know too well, please wait for at least eighteen months before going into this. But I will also let you know that there are women who will never, never trusted.
Aunty Amara,
Your column has become a weekly medication that I can no longer do without. Keep on touching lives the way no one else does. Your fountain of knowledge shall never run dry.
—Owat, Bariga.
MEN AND FACEBOOK
Amara,
I read your piece about facebook. I am a businessman into venue decoration and events management. How do I explore this media for better business?
Dear Reader,
Please send an SMS to me; I will introduce you to someone who is an authority when it comes to face book marketing.
Amara,
If I have my way, I will kill the biggest and fattest cow for you. Your column is a source of joy and inspiration to many souls. Our Lord Jesus is by your side.
—Mr Uba.
Amara,
I really enjoy your column in P.M.NEWS. I have decided to remove my friends who act like frauds and replace them with more responsible people.
—Anonymous.
Dear Amara,
I read your article “Men and Facebook”. It captured all that one needs to say about Facebook. I have kept your article as repository material.
—Isaac.
MEN AND STEP CHILDREN
Hello Amara,
You are a good, passionate writer. I really enjoy your column every Tuesday and Friday. I just finished reading your piece on men and facebook. I have a boy who is seven years old and I had him three years before I married my wife. But the issue here is that she treats this boy so well when I am around but whenever I leave the house, she does all sorts to him. In fact, it was my neighbour who quietly called me to report this. What is your advice to me on how to handle this problem.
—Kenny.
Dear Kenny,
I would advise you call your wife and talk to her. I must let you know that the best time to talk to a woman and get her on her knees is very early in the morning before you get off the bed or possibly, take her for a weekend getaway where it will be just the two of you. Plead and make her see reason with you. I am sure she will, but if she goes on in her ways, please get an adult from your own side to take care of your son. She married you knowing full well that you have a son, she must leave with it.
Amara,
I read your article on men and their step children. It was a very nice one, but I hope you will do same if you have step children from the man.
—Tunji.
Dear Tunji,
Most times I write out of experience. I did it. To me there is no reason to fight and push others out of your husband’s house just because you want to keep his properties to yourself alone. I pity women when I see them fight for material things and positions.
Dear Amara,
How can I get a complete package of all your articles? I really need to go through them occasionally especially the ones on men and foreplay. What can I do to increase my organ and also my wife’s curves without any side effect? I need an answer to this as soon as possible as it is creating problems in my sex life.
—Anonymous.
Dear Reader,
To get most of my articles, please visit the P.M.NEWS site: www.pmnewsnigeria.com/mens-grooming.
As for what to do to make your male organ bigger, I am not a party to anything that goes against nature. The size of your penis does not determine how well your wife enjoys sex. I would advise you to engage more in foreplay, that alone can get her to the peak of the mountain. Love making is totally different from sex. Men have just sex with prostitutes but when it comes to your partner, it should be nothing short of love making. For your wife’s curves, please enrol her in a gym and get her to watch her diet.
Hello Amara,
I totally agree with all you wrote about men and their step children. I am a perfect example. Recently, my step father clocked 80. I had to spend my last kobo to host a big party in his honour. He was there for us when every other person left us. My mum, my siblings and I will never forget this man.
—Peter Ola
Hi Amara,
I want to know if there is anything wrong with a man whose libido is so high that he demands sex from his wife every day. My wife does not agree to this and it is giving me real problems.
—Anonymous.
Dear Reader,
There is no limit when it comes to how many times you engage in sex. I will tell you the bitter truth. Your wife is not complaining about the frequent demand for sex, rather she is indirectly telling you there are things about you she is not happy with. The problem with most Nigerian men is that they see their wives are just another property and because of that she must give in to every demand. Times have changed. A woman should be made to feel loved and appreciated for a good sex life, help relieve her of some domestic stress if there is. Try to also clean up properly before sex. Also endeavour to make her enjoy sex, stop thinking of yourself alone. Let me also remind you that as a woman approaches menopause, mood swing sets in. You must learn to deal with this.
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