First Class Single Man

I started this topic on Tuesday-Women’s Grooming due to the constant request I get from my readers after I wrote on singleness sometime last year. Please bear with me if I have not been able to treat the very topic you asked for. I believe I will someday by the grace of God.

Like I told the ladies on Tuesday, my own understanding of a first class single person has nothing to do with material things and social status. I know you have your own understanding of this, but I also know that after reading this article, there will be a change of mind.

The media has not helped us as all we get are false lifestyle made to appear real. Go through the lists of the big boys in town and you see people who are promoting evil and moral bankruptcy. Who are those Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt big boys? Look a little bit deeper and you find them to be people who were/are into drugs, fraud, and pimping.Now tell me, do they have any credibility?

I just pity our Nigerian girls who are so crazy about those empty drums. I don’t know what they hope to gain from them. I am one person who will never allow money and material things take the place of godliness, self-respect, and intelligence. I don’t care how much you have to offer me, if you are not more intelligent than I am, I have no business with you. There must be good things I have to learn from you, and not taking me from one party to the other.

A first class single man has some attributes that are lacking among today’s Nigerian men. Please find below those attributes and qualities of a true first class single man.

Decency:

Where are our decent men? Where are those men who don’t pretend to be in the open what they are not in the secret? I think the trend of “Bornagainism”has not helped the Nigerian society. Like my pastor will always say; cars in Nigeria are born again while their owners are not. This is one reason I don’t allow stickers on my car because I don’t know if we are advertising Christ or churches. But a lot of people move about town with five different church stickers on and in their cars. Some now use church logo as seat covers. But in the midst of all these, we have no virtue to show for our faith.

Church guys are worse than and as indecent as the people they want to convert. Go into our churches and you see reckless living run from the pulpit to the pew. Guys now enter churches on Sunday with their girlfriends straight from night clubs.

Decency is not too much prayer and mechanical tongue-speaking. It is not about loud shouts in church and involvement in every activity. Decency is a virtue that is in you even when you don’t go to church.

Decency is what will make you know what to drink, when to drink it, and how to drink it. Decency will make you keep away from every one night stand (don’t pretend please, they still enjoy your patronage). A decent man will not throw a party with the aim of getting girls to sleep with his friends. A first class single man will never drive his car to pick university girls for his boss. If you are guilty of this, it’s time you made a u-turn because you will pay somehow-your daughters will be used the way you used others.

Godliness:

There is nothing in this life as rewarding as godly living. I believe strongly in what King David said;”I was young and now I am old, I have never seen the righteous forsaken nor his seed beg bread.” Godliness here is not about moving from church to church and walking as if you cannot hurt a fly. In fact, those very “good boys “are worse than the devil.

Nigerian men tend to leave spirituality in the hands of women. I see very bad men take their time in marriage trying to get a godly woman for a wife. A first class single man understands that life is nothing and meaningless without God at the centre.

Respect for women:

I wonder what will make a lady stay with a man who treats her like a piece of rag even when she is not married to him. But I discovered that girls now prefer money to genuine love. This is why we have men turn to beast instead of being what they should be to us. We have suddenly made them believe we desperately need their money and are ready to die than leave.

I read about Nollywood actresses and celebrities fight for men who have no regard for them. A first class single man will never stoop so low as to sleep with his girl’s best friend and sister. Hmmmm, seems you are guilty of this.

If you are a first class single man, you will pamper your woman to the point where she puts you before everything material. People keep wondering what will make a girl lay down her life for a man. We now believe girls of today can no longer run away from their parents just because of love, not money. It is only a first class single man who can make a lady forfeit material pleasure for pure love.

Style:

First class singleness isn’t about expensive designer wears, but good dress sense.Yes, I love men who know the basics of fashion. I am one person who loves to look simple and good at all times and I enjoy simplicity. I don’t understand why a real man will leave his house with so much jewelleries on his neck, hands and fingers.You can wear these things, but with style.

A first class single man will never turn himself to Mr. Earring. You may come up to tell me your profession demand you wearing dreadlock and having ear stud with saggy pants. I will not accept that because there are people in that music industry who are doing well and far above you when it comes to fame, but still have their good looks.

My mother tells us something-odi-ka-odi kpoba,odi-ka-odi azuru (you attract your likes). I don’t know how you expect any responsible girl to get attracted to you when you look like that mad man.

Cleanliness:

Some young men wear expensive things, but that doesn’t change the fact that they are untidy. First class single guy; what do people perceive when you raise your hand in church during worship? What kind of smell emanates from your mouth whenever you talk? What are the conditions of your shoes and the collar of your shirt? When was the last time you had a night bath with your mouth brushed before bed? How many times do you wear those boxers before washing them? Guys now go for colour underwears just because they have to hide their dirty lifestyle. When you get your legs off the shoes, does the air remain as it was? Well, give yourself the answers.

Hardwork:

It is very sad that guys of today appear to be very lazy. All that matters to them is just the short cut to wealth. Hardwork is not about acquiring wealth fraudulently because you are bound to lose it. Hardwork is not about going into politics just to enrich yourself and generations unborn.

Sir, hardwork is about you knowing your purpose on earth and striving to live it. The most miserable man on earth is not a man who is poor materially, but a man who lived and died without fulfilling his destiny.

Sure you now agree with me that you have a long way to go before you can confidently call yourself a first class single man.