Their Culture, Our Taboo


If there is any area of life where the Western world and Africans have glaringly found themselves incompatible, it is undeniably the area of culture.

Simply put, the way of life of a typical European or American is diametrically opposed to that of a typical African. Viewed from the context of our high regard for decent cultural practices, it would not be an exaggeration to say that the Western world has been benighted by social vices.

Virtually all aspects of the Western culture are seemingly seen as oddity, anathema and taboo in the African world. This perception of ours is not in the least misconceived. Our perception is as a result of our God fearing attitude to life.

Western culture is no doubt, totally incompatible with African nay, Nigerian culture. What they see as virtue is what we see as taboo. Regrettably, the provocative manner of dressing which our impeccable young ones are apparently exhibiting on our streets is a flagrant emulation in the way of dressing of the youths in the Western world.

The way of dressing of most of our today’s youths is an outright defiance of the cultural standards and expectations of our elders and parents. Sincerely, nudity has never been African nay Nigerian cultural value. In Nigeria, nudity is highly and strongly detested by our elders and parents.

Frankly, the prevailing social vices that have literally eaten deep into the fabric of our youths was made possible by the infiltration of Western culture into our land. Today, some perceived wayward youths dress like the opposite sex, while many of them have literally thrown moral sanctity to the dogs, all in the name of civilisation.

It is germane to state at this juncture that the infiltration of Western culture into our country is doing us more harm than good. No doubt, Western culture apparently began to manifest in our country due to unprecedented advances that are made in the field of transportation and communication. Today, technology has condensed the entire world into a global village. At the click of a mouse in Nigeria, one can start interacting with those in far away countries of Europe and America.

Still in the same nexus, most of the weird and bohemian lifestyles exhibited in the Western world, that would make our forefathers shudder in their graves, are gradually becoming the fad in our cities, towns and even in the villages.

Recently, the weird, inconceivable and indescribable issue of same-sex marriage was given a legislative attention so much so that it is at the moment drawing the ire of foreign aid donors based in Western countries. Thank God, members of the Senate, at a recent plenary session, called the bluff of a threatening letter received from a donor body in the United Kingdom, trying to compel the House to shift ground on the passed bill against same-sex marriage.

At this juncture, it would be pertinent to let the western world know that Nigerians do not practice sodomy. Nigerians believe that what is not good is not good. We do not pretend in doing things that are bad all in the name of civilisation. We are not culturally disposed to the practice of same-sex marriage.

In our traditional and modern societies, prospective marriage partners are traditionally screened by elderly relations, in most cases, carrying out their findings on the backgrounds of the families they came from before giving approval to marriages. With this, it is very obvious that the issue of matrimony is highly regarded in Nigerian societies.

In our cultural clime, marriage is a family and communal affair. We do not just go ahead and start marrying, not to talk of getting married to a spouse of the same sex. Even as I am writing this piece, I am almost throwing up at the thought of the idea of same-sex marriage. It is nauseating and unheard of.

It is very disappointing that the sellers of this barbaric idea of marriage are using the unique selling point of fundamental human rights. There is nothing right in the concept of same-sex marriage as far as our rich Nigerian cultures are concerned.

No matter how educated we are, we still regard our culture. So, the Western world should leave us alone. They have given us education. We say thank you; they are giving us technology, we are grateful. They have given us Christianity, we say thank you. Now, they want to give us Sodomy, but we say we do not want. They can go with their nauseating Greek gift of same-sex marriage.

After all, we ought not to be depending on any foreign body for aid or assistance if not for some of our corrupt leaders. God has blessed us more than most of these countries we look up to for aid and assistance.

The practice of same-sex marriage is absolutely and practically unheard of in the whole spectrum of Nigerian culture. Personally, I see it as a taboo of the highest order.

The New International Version (NIV) of the Bible says in the book of Leviticus, chapter 20, verse 13, that “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”

Also, the book of Genesis, chapter 2, verse 22, in King James Version (KJV), says “And the rib, which the Lord God has taken away from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man.” The key phrase to this topic in the foregoing scripture is “…and brought her unto the man.” This was buttressed in verse 24 that says “therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.”

Still in the connection, in the Bible in the Book of Genesis, chapter 1, verse 27, it was written: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female, he created them.” According to this scripture, God created a male and a female. In verse 28, He blessed them and made them husband and wife in His word that says “be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

From the Bible, it is very obvious that marriage is a man and woman affair and not the same-sex stuff. It is ironic that the Western world that brought Christianity to us are fast backsliding all in the name of fundamental human rights. Who will bell the cat?.

Also, in Genesis, chapter 24, verses 12 to 15, Abraham prayed for God to bless Isaac with a wife. God immediately answered his prayer by revealing and sending Rebecca to him. God did not send a man to the servant for Isaac to marry. The old testament of the Bible is replete with similar instances.

As deceitful as the international advocates or the sexual imperialists are, they are trying so hard to sell their abominable “culture” to Nigeria and Nigerians under the veil of fundamental human rights. To me, there is nothing right in same-sex marriage. Everything is wrong with it as long as the collective Nigerian culture is concerned and as long as the commandment of God is concerned.

In his book, Citizen And State Relations; A Political Approach, Celestine O. Abasilim, wrote that “Life, according to Aristotle, is not merely living, but living well. If good life is the aim of man’s life, then, its pursuit and achievement involves the fulfilment of certain conditions.” One of the conditions is that “Every right has a corresponding obligation; that is, one’s right to self-development should not interfere with the right of development of others.”

Put in a more understandable way, same-sex marriage is capable of offending the sensibilities of close and distant relations of the same-sex couples, apart from turning them into objects of ridicule, innuendoes and outright castigation in their immediate communities.

In the ancestral community of this writer, same-sex couples may automatically be ostracised or banished from the community. Also, it is potent enough to tear extended families apart as same-sex marriage is highly characterised with crises.

At this juncture, it is expedient to ask the Western world to stop meddling in the internal affairs of our dear country, Nigeria.

Suffice it to say that the cultural and Biblical references cited in this piece are conspicuously evident to prove that same-sex marriage is a taboo in its totality, it is detestable when viewed from our diverse culture and an abomination in Christendom.

But the question is, why would the Western world be literarily dragging Nigeria and Nigerians into the practice of sodomy when it is quite obvious that it is alien to our culture?

It is very clear that various Western countries encouraging same-sex marriage are not comfortable with it given the barrage of controversies, criticisms and condemnations that are trailing its practices. The world’s reaction to the US Secretary of State, Hilary Clinton’s speech that gays’ rights are human rights, are clear indication that same-sex marriage is a global taboo.

Personally, I think Nigeria deserves kudos or a pat on the back for her wisdom in legislating against same-sex marriage. The world should rise up against this evil practice called same-sex marriage and follow Nigeria on the path of sanity and decency towards the betterment of humanity.

The practice of same-sex marriage is capable of provoking God, the creator of heaven and earth, to destroy the world like He did in the days of Noah. I must confess that my personal rating of the personality of Mrs. Hilary Clinton has suddenly dropped to zero because of her stand on the issue. Honestly, I no more see her as my role model.

We all know that an animal with a zero-level intelligence quotient (if there is any), cannot begin to mate an animal of the same sex. This is because God created them with the sense of recognising or identifying the opposite sex.

If you grew up in the village, you would have noticed that even a he-goat that mated with its biological mother is literarily wont to show remorse by moving away from the mother and lying down at a distance, chewing its cud. The controversial and detestable issue of same-sex marriage is very serious that I should be permitted to draw an analogy from the animal kingdom. If the issue is not strongly thrashed out from our moral atmosphere, we may discover that humanity may gradually become animalistic in sexual practices.

As it is, one would not be wrong to say that the self-arrogated superiority complex of Western countries over African and Asian countries has come to the point of re-assessment. I am hereby, through this medium, calling on countries of the Western world to organise a continental round-table talk to discuss the propriety of various “rotten” moral and social issues they have previously supported for the world to remain habitable. They should stop polluting the world with nauseating immoral practices all in the name of human rights.

The world would not be surprised if a public figure in America or Europe would deliver a speech that getting married to one’s mother or aunt is an issue of fundamental human rights. To me, I think the West should leave us alone in Africa, nay Nigeria. We have our own culture. If they decide to be making love on the streets, it is well. As for us in Nigeria, our ancestors have already set a self-regulatory standard for us which is in total agreement with the book of the Bible in Philippians, chapter 4, verse 8, which says: “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.”

•Isaac Asabor