My Mother, My Friend (2)

Stella Damasus

Stella Damasus

Stella Damasus

I received a mail a few days ago and I loved it so much that I decided to share it with you all.

Letter From A Mother To A Daughter

“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: ‘You said the same thing a minute ago’… Just listen, please.

Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep. When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl? When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

“If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you. And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

“When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter.”

Last week, at the end of the My Mother, My Friend article, I asked you guys to send in sweet things about your mothers. Here are some of the things I got.

“God bless your mother Stella, God bless my mom too. There couldn’t have been any me without my mom, an old soldier as we call her. Full of love and compassion. My mum is 74 now, and I am lucky to still have her. From making sure I attended a federal school, to visiting days, helping to comfort me when my marriage broke down and still believing in me is a miracle. God bless you mum”


“Unfortunately my mom is dead. May her dedicated, humble, beautiful soul rest in perfect peace.”

—Yetunde Mustafa


“Mothers to me are the best gifts one could ask for. I lost mine to a series of illnesses and loss of memory, an after-effect of a ghastly motor accident we had three years ago, and I’d say she had to give up her life for us because we were hanging by a thread. My sister lost her arm and I had broken ribs which threw her into panic. Life has never been the same. She was my best friend and confidant, and I miss her more than words could tell. She moulded me into the lady I am today. I remember some years back when my family had financial issues, she sold some of her possessions to make sure she kept us in school and had food on our table. She would run around whenever we fell ill and won’t sleep till we slept. I miss her so much”


Thank you guys for sending in all these beautiful mails about your mothers, whether dead or alive I am sure they are somewhere smiling at you.


Quote: Let’s not wait till we lose the ones we love before we begin to show how much we care.

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