Lists To Live By

Stella Damasus

Stella Damasus

Stella Damasus

I stumbled on a book that I had read a while ago and I remembered a particular day when I was discussing this book with a group of people in my book club.

A lot of them had issues with the list from the book. Oh by the way the book is called “LISTS TO LIVE BY”. It has tips for everyone from success to marriage, to health, to family life, to relationships and so on. It is very easy to read and quite interesting. Unfortunately most of my club members had issues with some particular tips and argued seriously about them.

I don’t believe in judging people or forcing people to accept or believe in my ideologies. So I thought to share some of them with you and hope that you will respond via email and tell me which ones you don’t agree with and which ones you accept plus the ones that have helped you one way or the other, just so that others can be inspired.

•It’s ok to fail.

•The only thing that can stop you is you.

•Ask your boss if you can do more.

•Never point out errors without offering a solution.

•Criticize the act, never the person.

•Never condemn in public.

• Tackle the challenges you don’t want to face first.

•Discover the dreams of others.

•Don’t avoid unpleasant topics.

•Be quick to acknowledge your errors.

•Laugh at yourself.

•Move out of your comfort zone.

•Give people more than they expect.

•Don’t believe all you hear.

•When you say “I’m sorry”, look the person in the eye.

•Be engaged at least 6 months before you get married.

•When someone asks you a question and you don’t want to answer, smile and ask “why do you want to know?”

•Smile while picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

•Read more books and watch less TV.

•Never interrupt while you are being flattered.

•Trust in God, but lock your car.

•Spend your life lifting people up, not putting people down.

•Don’t expect life to be fair.

•Finish what you start.

•Do it when you think of it.

•Don’t write long letters.

•Realise not everything needs to be done today.

•Love is about holding your tongue.

•Look for opportunities to make people feel important.

•Be the first to say hello.

•Don’t ask your single friends for marital advice.

•Don’t take parental advice from one who has never had one.

•A man is known by the book he reads.

•Love means to love that which is unlovable.

•Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being.

•When traveling give a copy of your itinerary to your family and trusted neighbours.

•Be willing to listen without offering advice.

•Everybody has an opinion. Realise early that you won’t meet everyone’s expectations.

•Allow children to solve problems on their own before you intervene.

•People do not grow old. When they cease to grow, then they become old.

•People only see what they are to see.

•A man is what he thinks about all day.

•Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

•The wise learn many things from their enemies.

•It is well for one to know more than he says.

•The more you have, the more you have to worry about.

•We all struggle- no one is as confident as he seems.

•What a person sees in you is sometimes very different from what you think he’s seeing.

Let me stop here for now, but like I said earlier I would be grateful if you can point out the specific tips that you don’t agree with and let me also know the ones that have worked for you.


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