10th October, 2021
Raymond Dokpesi, the Chairman Emeritus of DAAR Communications Plc, has said going into polygamy was one of the greatest errors of his life.
Dokpesi stated this on Saturday in an interview with journalists in Abuja.
The interview was part of the activities to mark his 70th birthday scheduled for October 25.
The media mogul said he never entered into polygamy because of his wealth. He said it was due to internal family challenges.
He said, “I am a Catholic and I definitely will tell you that one of the greatest errors of my life is polygamy.
‘But it is not something that I desired or something that I wanted. It was a situation that developed, I just had no alternative.
“A lot of people looked at it as if it was wealth that distorted my behavior but the truth of the matter is that there were internal family challenges that led to the polygamy.
“I was married to a Polish woman, I wanted to remain with the Polish woman, I still desired it in my old age but she left Nigeria for reasons that she was the only child of her parents and so she had to stay with her parents and I had to stay here and there is no leave in marriage.
“And so, I shuttled down to Poland over 16 times requesting her to come back to Nigeria and stay but as the only child, she wanted to be by them.
“My mother was very anxious that I should have children that are my own; kids that I don’t have to enter a plane to go and visit. That whole thing caused the instability that later affected my life.”
Dokpesi also revealed how he survived poisoning as a little child even as it was predicted that he would not last more than 35 years.
He said: “Well, let me say 35 years was the benchmark that was given to me because, in my very early years, I was very sickly. I was fairly handicapped because I could not talk from the very beginning of my life; but very many people assumed that because I could not talk, I could not hear or I could not understand what it was.
“So, I would normally just look and see, watch things as they happened. And I vividly recall when one of my father’s very close friends came to intervene about my schooling and he condemned, outright, any effort to invest in me because I was very sickly and secondly, he had not seen any child of a northerner succeed.
“I was handicapped and that was the toughest moment in my life at that stage and at that time, I felt highly discriminated against, I felt that I was likely to be denied the opportunity to live.
“By the time, I was about 12 years I was terribly sick, my mother and father took me to several places from hospitals to native doctors and churches praying, looking for an opportunity for me to survive.
“They later took me down to Agenebode, when my father had almost given up, that I was not going to survive. We went through the banks of River Niger at the time. When we got to the destination, they said I had been poisoned and the people that committed the atrocity were there present and they will be able to deliver me.
“But behold, here I am, 70 years old, all those challenges put behind, I am strong, I am healthy and I thank Almighty God and all Nigerians that have given me support all through to be able to reach this year.”