28th July, 2023
Pastor Bisi Adewale has released an article to teach married women on how to sexually satisfy their husbands.
The marriage coach, via his article, noted that for a husband’s sexual needs to be met, a woman need to do more than just lie down and say, “Do whatever you want to do and let me sleep”.
The cleric noted that a woman must not just sleep with her husband, adding that the most important is to “sleep with his imagination.”
He added that a woman must capture her husband’s five senses.
“You must let him feel he is getting the best he can get anywhere in the world. This you must do by being joyful, committed, consistent, inviting and creative.”
Below are the 20 ways prescribed by Pastor Bisi Adewale.
1. Get Knowledge: Get these three books they will really help you greatly
• Secrets Of An Irresistible Wife
• Secrets Of An Irresistible Husband
• Sexual Fulfillment In Marriage
2. Make Up Your Mind To Be Your Husband’s Sexy Girl: Lots of times, wives are good cooks, good mothers, good house managers, and good support but a very bad sex partner. I’ve spoken to lots of couples whose marriages are in danger because of this. Please don’t join them. You can be a Proverbs 31 Woman and still lose your husband to strange women out there. So, you need to also, be a Songs of Solomon woman and become your husband’s sexy girl. The Proverbs 31 woman was good at everything but nothing was mentioned about her romantic life and her ability in the bedroom. Many Godly wives put only this into their heads and allow the devil to strike through carelessness in the bedroom.
Don’t just be your husband’s wife, mother, cook, launderer, housekeeper etc. You have got to be your husband’s mistress, lover girl, concubine, babe, sexy baby and bedroom mate. You are married to a full-blooded man, full of fire in his groin and you’ve got to quell this fire regularly. Don’t say he is spiritual and he can’t fall. No girl, God knows about spirituality before he sanctioned sexuality and put sex in marriage.
3. Think Right About Sex: Develop your mind to think this way:
• Sex is a gift from God, I will enjoy it.
• Sex is good
• Sex is Godly
• Sex is for pleasure, not pain
• Sex is for both of us to enjoy
• Sex is the best gift you can give to your husband
• I am the only one who should sleep with my husband and I am going to do a great job.
• I will make my husband fulfilled sexually.
• I will sleep with my husband regularly, joyfully, and creatively.
4. Talk About Sex With Your Husband: Discuss with your husband about sex. Know what he wants and how to satisfy him. Tell him what you want too and how he can satisfy you sexually.
5. Dress For Sex: When it’s getting late in the night, let your dresses change. Dress down and get ready for bed. The more he looks, the more he sees. Your husband will like it.
6. Put Sex In Your To-Do List: When you are writing your to-do list for the day, put sex among them. Your body will be ready for sex, no matter how tired you are in the evening.
7. Make It A Pre-planned Sex: Discuss with your husband about sex in the morning. Promise him an explosive firework in the night, tell him to come home early, he will not disappoint you.
8. Be Involved In Foreplay: Be involved totally in foreplay. Arouse him, touch him, massage him, kiss him, touch his nipples, suck his nipples and let him suck yours too, let him play with your breast, play with his penis and gently touch his testicles. Don’t just wait to be touched or tickled, go ahead and do it for him.
9. Have Quickie: Every now and then, have sex just to see how fast he can be satisfied. The benefits? He can just enjoy you totally. And you get to see how powerful you really are.
10. Talk, Do Not Keep Quiet: Don’t keep quiet when the action is going on. Talk, gibber, smile, comment, praise and moan. Just show him that you are enjoying it, your husband will love it.
11. Make Sex Fun By All Means: I know you always want to cook tasty meals for your husband and you are happy when he is satisfied. Put this into use too and make sure you make your husband enjoy sex and get very satisfied.
12. Change Venue: Use different places in the house when you are alone. The sitting room, bathroom, visitors’ room, children’s room, dining table, on the sofa, sitting down on the chair, on the rug, on a mattress, on the floor. Who said it must be 9 pm in your room?
13. Change Position: In some positions, you’ll feel tighter, which will be nice for him. In some, he’ll be able to go deeper. In some, he’ll be able to feel other parts of you more easily (which he may really like). If for your own pleasure, you need to be in one position to climax, that’s okay! Just start in a different position, and then switch later.
Now. here are two particular positions that can really help:
14. Put Your Legs Up Higher: One of the things that feel amazing for your man to be able to thrust in as deeply as possible. In the missionary position, if you put your legs up on his shoulders, this gives him the ability to thrust a lot more. (Please, get comfortable first! And if this hurts, then DON’T do it.) If he’s in more of a kneeling position, you can put your legs up around his waist for a similar effect that may be easier to maintain (keeping your legs up that high for that long can sometimes make him fall asleep).
15. Climb On Top And Take The Pressure Off: I’m not talking about taking physical pressure off. I mean taking psychological pressure off. When you’re the one on top, you’re more in control. In other positions, he’s the one doing the moving, and chances are he’s thinking about what he needs to do to make you feel good. In this position, you have most of the power, so you can think about satisfying him without him worrying about satisfying you. He can lie back and enjoy it! Also, he can use his hands in more interesting ways.
16. Take It Nice And Slow- Break Up The Pleasure: But for real pleasure, drag it out. Here’s how it works best. Think of your husband as having three stages during lovemaking: getting going, super excited, and then transitioning to almost reaching climax. Learn how to identify each of those three stages. Then, when he’s almost at the transitioning stage, stop making love and switch positions or slow things right down.
There are several ways to handle this:
Order him to stop moving. Make him stop, and he might want to cry. Now ask him to tell you what he wants to do. That will be exquisitely frustrating for him. Then, when you think he’s had enough, let him move again. Repeat as often as you like!
You keep moving. You can also tell him not to move while you get to move. Work things out to feel great for you, but not necessarily as intense for him. Then you can let him move again a bit.
Switch positions. When he seems super excited, stop, take a breath, and switch positions. This makes the immediate stimulation go down a bit and drags everything out. When you drag things out, then he finally climaxes, it’s even more.
17. Squeeze Him: He will LOVE this! Do you know how to do a Kegel exercise? That’s where you squeeze your vaginal muscles to learn how to control them. If you’re not sure what those muscles are, they’re the same ones that you would use to cut off the flow of urine. You can do those exercises periodically, like squeezing 5 times every time you’re at a stop sign, for instance.
Anyway, if you can’t learn how to use those muscles, then when he starts getting super excited, and close to climax, start squeezing him inside you rhythmically. It’ll put him over the top!
18. Whisper To His Ear: To make sex awesome, try to use as many senses as possible. Use hearing! Whispering in his ear (whispering is sexy). Even, tell him in detail what you’re enjoying while he’s doing it.
And don’t forget to use his name! Hearing his own name coming from you, when he’s amid incredible pleasure, is even more erotic because it’s so personal.
19. Leave The Lights On: Give your husband a bit of show. Don’t switch off the lights; it’s not a work of darkness. Let him see you in full glory. Speaking of senses, don’t forget to let him see you! Try starting out by wearing something really lacy and revealing. Or leave the lights on so that he can enjoy watching you while you both make love.
20. Date Him For Sex: Call him in the office to date him for sex tonight. Get home early, make the house ready, change the bed sheet, get blue light, get nice food, take your bath, put on nice deodorant and let the children go to bed before his arrival. Put a very sexy dress on, put on soft music and wait for him. If you do this regularly, the level of fighting will fall in your marriage. The truth is, men love sex, and your husband does too.