“Never confess if you cheat,” Teju Babyface warns men

Popular Nigerian comedian and television host, Teju Babyface, has stirred controversy after advising men against confessing infidelity to their wives or partners.

In a YouTube video shared on Monday, Teju described open confessions about cheating as “one of the most catastrophic and damaging things you can ever do in your life,” stressing that such admissions cause more harm than healing in marriages.

“If you cheat on your wife or your husband, but especially your wife — especially men — if you cheat on your wife, don’t tell her. Don’t confess. Do not ever do it,” he said.

The entertainer argued that while many justify confession with biblical references, repentance and forgiveness should be directed to God, not to one’s spouse.
“People will even quote the Bible to support the idea of confession. They will say that if we confess and repent, then our sins are forgiven. Excuse me, that is to God and from God, not to man. It is confession to God, not to man. Do not do it,” he emphasized.

Teju further explained that most confessions are not acts of honesty but rather selfish attempts to ease personal guilt.

According to him, “You are not being honest; you are being manipulative. What you’re really doing is shedding the weight of your guilt, not helping your spouse. You’re looking for someone else to carry the burden of your wrongdoing.”

Sharing a personal story, the comedian admitted that before marriage, he once cheated in a serious relationship and confessed, a decision he now regrets.

He said the confession was less about integrity and more about subconsciously sabotaging the relationship.
“I can see clearly now that I confessed because I wanted out of the relationship. If I cheated and then confessed, and she left by herself, I could justify it to myself. That was not honesty — that was cowardice,” he said.

Teju concluded that confessions rarely mend relationships, instead leaving betrayed partners with long-lasting pain and distrust.
“There is no benefit to your spouse when you confess. All the benefits are yours. What you give them is pain, heartache, and misery,” he stated.