Here Comes Valentine
As we all know, the month of February is here again and we know what that means. February is a month known for love. We call it the month of love because of St. Valentine’s Day.
Love is a good thing and it is the only thing that makes life worth living. A life devoid of love is a very empty one. It is good to share that love with everyone around us. Everything about us should speak of love.
Many are excited about the forthcoming St. Valentine’s Day. I see people on facebook asking questions on how to go about this day. Everyone is filled with questions about what would be the best gift for their loved ones. Guys are all over the place trying to dump girlfriends for new ones.
The only question you hear guys ask now is; would you be my Val? This is pure deceit and I pity anyone who falls for this cheap trick. Some guys who never remembered you lived before now are all over you pretending to be in love. Some girls have stupidly accepted their offer thinking they are being real.
What you don’t know is that so many of them have their wives and girlfriends living and working outside Lagos. Due to the nature of their own jobs, they cannot leave town to visit them.Now, the only available option is for them to get one spare tyre for the night and that is what you are about turning yourself to.
It’s really sad how guys have their way with women in Nigeria. You say you are not a prostitute, but a man walks up to you, invites you to be his Val and that you gladly accepted. He picks you after work to the club or wherever you choose. It is all about eating, drinking, and getting drunk. He treats you like a queen for that night and flaunts you before all his colleagues and friends.
Oh yeah, the guy is the bomb and you are ready to do anything to keep him. Now you are done with the eating and drinking, it is time to go straight to business. It is time for him to let you know the major reason for asking you to be his Val. That reason is nothing else, but sex.He has always wondered what you would look like in bed and now he has you on a platter of gold. Go on; enjoy yourself because you feel that is what St. Valentine’s Day should be.
Suddenly the whole enjoyment is over, morning has come and he has to go back to work. He hurriedly gets ready, pays you off as the whore you are and gets a cab to pick you up. Now tell me; is it worth it? How much did you get from him that should be compared with the worth of your body and pride?
Girls, St. Valentine’s Day is about a Christian Saint. St. Valentine lived a life of selfless service to God and humanity. If St. Valentine’s Day is in remembrance of a saint, why then do we engage in so many immoral activities on that day? In my own opinion, I think it should be a day to show love to the unlovable.
St. Valentine’s Day is not a day to get drunk and move from one club house to the other with other shameless women. It is really sad that Nigerian women are now the ones inviting men to night clubs. If you are a married woman, please spend that day with your family.
If you look at the present condition of our society, you will realize that women are no longer taking their place in the lives of their children. I know you are a very busy woman and I really feel for you the woman being the bread winner of the home because he lost his job or because you are a single mother.
I understand it all, but please use that little spare time you have for your kids. There is nothing greater than raising good and godly seeds. I want to encourage you to use this very St. Valentine’s Day celebration to teach your children all they should know about love. It is time for women to arise and re-direct our children. The media and society in general have all helped in destroying children.
Our young boys and girls now believe there is no other love except the boyfriend-girlfriend love. It would have been okay if it ends at that, but to them sex is the only way to prove your love. Oh my God! Mothers, terrible things are happening, our children are getting polluted. Let us arise, pray for mercy and show our children the way back to God and humanity.
I was able to use the last Christmas to let my children understand the true meaning of Christmas and I believe they now have a different understanding of what it is because after that day, there was no talk about new clothes and parties. Let your children know that St. Valentine was a man of love and compassion.
Mothers, do all you can to be your children’s Val. I know you are not used to this kind of style, but you’ve got to step up a bit and become a little bit polished for the sake of your children. Your teenage daughter and son may get tempted by their friends on that day and you must find a way to teach her the true lessons of Valentine.
You can do a love letter to her telling all that she is to you. As you are shopping for your husband, please don’t forget the kids. Get into that shop and get her those pink teddy bears, chocolates, and lovely cards. This is the best time to show them that contrary to the views of their friends and the world, genuine love still exists. Take them to the motherless babies’ homes and orphanages where they go to show love to those less privileged ones.
I see so many mothers come up with comments to discourage their children from celebrating St. Valentine’s Day. There is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with the celebration. The only thing wrong with it is that people have turned it into a day of iniquities.
Madam Manager, please don’t come up with that official trip just because your male colleague or boss is waiting for you somewhere outside Lagos. In fact, every good wife and mother will do anything to avoid assignments that will take her away from her home this period. I agree there are times you have no control over things, but if it comes up genuinely, please go ahead with your work because your husband understands.
Don’t forget your house help this period. Make her a part of your family.
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