13th August, 2010
Now if a person had willingly decided to get along with the other, shouldnâ€
Ruth and Mark have been together in marriage for over six years but are still wondering if it is actually going to work. Six years is a long time for crying out loud, what stops them from settling their doubt and enjoying the marriage as supposed? Well, read a little about them.
“I love my wife, Ruth, from the first time I set my eyes on her and always wanted to be close to her. Yes, you could say it is because of the circumstances surrounding our relationship, but any how, you want to see it, I love her. I happened to work with Ruth at a time; she met me in the organisation after I had put in more than three years of service. As a young man, the coming of a new lady was like a fresh opportunity to catch and Ruth was a good one in deed. Luckily for me, she was assigned to work directly under me and as usual, I needed to run a short induction for her, which was great fun.
“I was careful not to bombard her with dates, I just showed her cool love; helped her get through the challenging stage of a new job, leading her gently into the work culture and ultimately telling her the dos and donâ€
“As we sat over a meal, it was clear that Ruth was deep in thought and somewhat feeling uneasy. I did my best to penetrate her mood but she blocked me hard. Finally, I thought she was just playing hard to get or maybe shy as she never asked a question about who I was or what I liked. Well, I took the ball to her court, asking every relevant question that could help me know her. She answered with precaution, saying only the basic things, but I sure wanted something more than that. I wanted a woman who would give a run down of her past life, lovers, fears, joy, success, failure, aspirations, likes and dislikes. This, you know, makes you analyse and place a person easily.
“Since I could not get the kind of flow I anticipated, the evening had to end but we still said it was a good outing as long as we were smiling and beaming at each other. Subsequent dates were more successful and she gradually opened up to me on personal issues and values. After a few months together in the same establishment, Ruth got another offer which she considered juicier and decided to grab it.
“I couldnâ€
“Ruth felt I was seeing another lady at work or maybe the new staff that came to replace her had also become my catch. I did everything to convince her there was no replacement for her position yet, but she just wouldnâ€
“During one of her appearances, there was a female colleague who came around to sort some computer programmes. Ruth walked in and concluded she caught me red handed. All my explanations made no sense as she remained enraged, calling me cheat and stuff I canâ€
“Well, it was in one of those instances when she got information I had a female visitor who had come the previous day and spent almost all day with me, that she hurried out of work to trap me. On her way, she ran into an oncoming vehicle, which resulted into a very serious accident and now that she has got a bad leg, should I abandon her and marry another woman? Iâ€
Aidyâ€
It is a pity it went that way, but we should all learn that love is/should be a gift. We donâ€
Laying ambush for your loved one only says you are not sure of love and the people you ask to check on your spouse will for ever despise you and the relationship.
Sometimes, you may have questions about your spouseâ€
Focus on love and suspend suspicion.