Building A Strong Family

The human race has been made to recognise, identify, enjoy and connect with family ties in one way or the other. Although some may be bitter or unhappy with their family setting/background, that can’t wipe out the fact they still belong there.

Finding one’s self in a particular family automatically imposes the responsibility of ‘making it work’ on its members. Is there anyone who would not love to be part of a happy family where everyone feels loved, accepted and at home to express their feelings and thought appropriately?

Desire is only a start point but to actualise this dream would require people to unite and work toward success. No one person should be singled out to be ‘the builder’ of the family while the others fold arms and watch how successful it can be. The basic family setting involves father, mother and children. Relatives and members of extended families all add colours to the whole idea of belonging to a large family tree.

The truth therefore stands that the larger the family, the greater the demand to manage it properly. Dealing with a nucleus family of parents and children could pose a lot of challenge too much for some people to cope with.

Building a strong family should be the aspiration of every soul: your family is where you go to after a hard day’s job, although they may annoy you sometimes- there is a sense of belonging that embraces you once you are with your siblings or parents. It might be encouraging to know that a solid family tie helps people develop a positive and courageous self image.

Psychologists believe that children who are brought up in happy families do better in school and also tend to show much love, respect and human sympathy toward others. Even adults who are having troubled family times can be easily identified at work as they display signs of anxiety, irritability and always looking for innocent colleagues to vent their frustration. When next you see a colleague/boss getting unnecessarily enraged and erratic, please give way; it might just be a case off transferred aggression. The way you left home in the morning has a way of affecting your whole day at work and even worse if you are someone who finds it difficult to manage your emotions.

How to build a strong family

•Quality Time: Spending time with someone is a clear way of telling them how much you value their presence in your life. In today’s world, everyone has his/her personal agenda and pursues it without fail. Increasing financial need and pressure of wealth acquisition has not helped matters either but if you’ll love to look back and be proud of your decisions; start now to spend a little more time with the ones you love.

•Communication: I get frustrated when people try to reduce the art of communication to passing and receiving information only. Communication for me is the totality of human existence and connection with the drive to give and receive thought and intent. Learning how to talk to each other nicely does not show only respect but also the desire for peace. Sharing your heart or challenges with loved ones brings you close even as you jointly proffer solution to difficult situations. Don’t live like strangers.

•Mutual Respect: Charity, it is said ‘begins at home’. Lack of respect is the major cause of some of the messy situations created all over the world. A person who is taught to respect or feels respected at home is bound to have some level of self-control. The need to be overly suspicious or apprehensive reduces to its barest minimum.

•Pray/play together: You can never go wrong with these two aspects of family need. A family that prays/plays together stays together.

•Transfer of Values: Let the older people teach the younger ones what should be done. Why? Because we have a way we do things and would love to pass it on the generation next. What are you transferring to your children?

•Show/express love: Give it, say it and live it.

•Say positive things not negative: See and say something good to your family members.

•Praise in public, rebuke in private.

•Be there for each other at all times

•Tolerate each other and explore new ways to form a solid bond.