11th October, 2013
Where has patience gone? The tenacity that births change is becoming extremely scarce. In an age of instant, quick and soon reward, mentioning the word ‘wait’ puts you centuries behind. People ask; if there is fast food and fast delivery of almost everything man needs so why should we bother waiting? Alternative is the challenge of success. The world has been made so free that walking in and out of contracts is big fun.
Please do not get me wrong. I love having choices too. Oh how sweet is it to switch from one supermarket to another just because of a small difference in price- as little as twenty pence is enough to influence your decision if you are a sincere and realistic person.
Change is good; the world would be a boring domain without changes. Life gets better with new ideas, inventions and trials. Imagine how limited man would be if we were still in the dark age? What internet services alone have done for this generation has taken life to another level. The confidence that you can reach the world at almost no cost is amazing. Recent production in automobile industry is epic- it can only get better. When you compare the times and ages of what man used to parade as cars, you’ll be forced to think “the beautiful ones are not yet born”.
Now, drawing a line between the necessary changes and clinging to unprofitable familiar routine is really a hard thing to accomplish. How do you know when to say no to demanding friends? When should you quit a draining job? How are you sure the excesses you are tolerating from people will not turn to your detriment? Is speaking a good decision or should you be completely quiet? What indeed is the best time to scream for help? How I’m I sure the next move is what I need to be where I should be? What is the guaranty my next line of actions will pay off? If my plans do not work at last will people not make mockery of me? Where will I start if my plans fail? Can I face the shame of being a failure?
The questions keep coming and will always do as long as the mind is working but knowing what you want from life, where to go and what your purpose is can go a long way to support your tenacity or flexibility.
Truth is that every decision of where to shop, what to eat, how to dress, etc. is accompanied by low price tag even when you falter but ‘big issues’ like leaving or staying in a relationship, job, country/relocation require more discretion. You need to think and make your picks carefully. The future might not be clear but projection is not a bad idea at all. Sometimes, holding on can be detrimental but quitting bites hard too.
Here is a piece of poem I wrote some time in the past about quitting..
“To quit or to stay
A game so hard to play
To quit, you failed
To stay you’re frail
Fear to face the world
Faith to mend your wall
Which of these is life to me?
Where on earth should I be?
Move on, watch out
Turn right, look left
Just to know you’ve done your best.
A lot of people live in regret soon after opting out of routine. I know the thought of quitting spells freedom but there can be no real freedom if you are not better off at your new destination. Is that a case of moving from frying pan to fire? Not sure! The urge to quit sometimes could be so boisterous. Everything goes into the decision of quitting; psychology, emotion, fear, faith, boldness, timidity, arrogance, strong will and desire for change.
If you have worked in a hostile environment before, you’ll appreciate what peace at work means. It comes to a time that your only motivation for going to work is your ability to pay bills. You wonder “where did this character/person come from to torment my life in this manner?” Worse still, it could be a gang up against you-what can you do? If you have a potent reason to remain there and are sure of safety; things might change in your favour soon. Who knows?
The world is a place of competition and people would be glad to see you quit so they can win unopposed. Someone somewhere needs your job and is ready to do just anything to succeed you. He/she is eyeing your spouse and is on the lookout for opportunity to break in. Your friends have left home in anger and you think they will encourage you to be obedient to parents? You lie! If you look carefully around you, everything has been positioned to make discouraged and quit your domain. Others would even be glad to see you leave mother earth totally- what a world! So come on, shake off the dust and shine again. If you have not learnt to encourage yourself and move on, you may be in for surprises. Close pals, family and friends might sometimes hold back when you needed help the most. Find a reason to get out of bed daily; motivate yourself to a good cause and do your best to get the rest.
Quitting should be your decision from an advantaged position. Quit for something higher; not give in to melt down. I know sometimes you quit out of frustration and it turns out for your good.
How will quitting affect you in a relationship?
…..CONTINUES NEXT WEEK!